It is interesting to see the demonisation and scurrilious attacks on Dr Tanveer Ahmed, a White Ribbon ambassador as he tries to add some balance to the issues of domestic violence in Australia. The hatchet job done by the local ABC radio station (11/02/2015) in their interview with White Ribbon Australia about Mr Tanveer’s article published in The Australian, is symptomatic of the way this debate has created more problems than it solves.
Men continue to be portrayed as potentially violent creatures while women are portrayed as their victims. However the statistics show otherwise. In a 2009 article found here http://www.abc.net.au/news/2009-06-22/domestic-violence-women-abusers-on-the-rise/1327964 the writer says,
‘There has been a startling increase in the number of women who are the perpetrators of domestic violence.
New South Wales Bureau of Crime Statistics figures show that over the past eight years, the number of women charged with domestic abuse has rocketed by 159 per cent.’
The article also states
‘Preconceived ideas of gender roles have led a lot of people to believe it would be virtually impossible for a women to physically abuse a man.
But co-director of Men’s Rights Agency Sue Price says it is exactly this stereotype that leads to battered men hiding in shame, fearful of being ridiculed, or even prosecuted.
‘I’ve had SAS soldiers in tears because the wife is a black belt karate expert and yet they know that if they even try to restrain her he might be charged with assault and domestic violence,’ she said.
I would suggest the numbers are even higher seeing as many men are ashamed to admit to being hit by a woman or that they have been subjected to other forms of domestic violence where in many cases, children are involved as hapless witnesses.
And that is the point in all this, the children, particularly boys who are often left fatherless and alienated from their biological father in a society which increasingly undermines men’s positions within their families and the society in general.
It is time women admitted their role in creating situations where domestic violence occurs and stop trying to hide behind the victim perosna.
The tragedy of boys who are left emotionally rudderless because women find it expedient to destroy families on some capricious whim while creating potential for domestic violence must be more firmly addressed in a society which is rapidly producing boys who have no male models and are dominated by their crazy mothers.
M Mizzi, Byron Bay