Re your article One woman’s story about surviving domestic violence (Echonetdaily, February 11). People have many types of toxic relationships: some with food and exercise (too much or two little of one or other or both), others with a range of physical substances (alcohol, drugs, tobacco and the like) — these seem simple because a physical component can be identified and monitored.
But there are more, where the components are wickedly difficult and perhaps impossible to identify or monitor. What are the components to measure about creating emotional attachments and detachments? Managing power relations in day-to-day life? The nexus of memory, history and social values, the roles of judgments, trauma and hope?
And finally, what of the internal states which reveal as expressions of self-harm, unexpected and risky behaviour, and surprising outbursts such as road rage? How to clock the powerful drives to win, to have the last word, to work harder and longer, to keep to habitual behaviour even in face of warnings and catastrophe?
Hmmm. Would understanding people and toxic relationship help us with our society’s relationship to fossil fuel consumption in an era of pollution and global warming?
Mary Gardner, Byron Bay