Mandy Nolan’s Soapbox: Close To Home

Mandy Nolan’s Soapbox: Close To Home

This week, my family was victim to a home invasion. It’s not anything you can be emotionally prepared for. We are changed forever. When strangers attack you unexpectedly in your home, because you are in your safe space – the trauma is incomprehensible. This was our sanctuary. If you aren’t safe in your home, then where are you safe? Afterwards there is only exile, the home that once held you is forever gone.

This is how it happened. We were at dinner – laughing around the table – when they came in. Sunday night is our favourite time to chat and share a laugh. The kids were squabbling over the last few roast potatoes when they busted in. A group of black men. They entered our house through the open door. They didn’t knock. They didn’t ask to be invited in. They just came in – like our place was theirs. We froze. The winner of the last potato dropped it. It was like we weren’t even there. Like we were no longer flesh and blood, just ghosts that they moved through.

They started looking around our house, taking things that they found of interest, smashing things they didn’t. Things that were precious to us like our photos, like my favourite tea-pot, a child’s painting. They didn’t speak English. We didn’t know what they spoke. It was a tongue unlike any we’d ever heard. They were talking, and pointing, and saying things to each other, and, talking about us, but we couldn’t work it out. We didn’t need to know what they were saying though to know that we were in danger. My kids were crying. The youngest started screaming. This irritated one of the men who raised his hand to hit her. She became silent. We all became silent. We were in shock.

How could a quiet Sunday dinner go so horribly wrong? Should we have seen it coming? Should we have locked our door? Should we have fought back harder? We couldn’t work out why strangers would do this. Surely they had children and homes of their own? Why would someone invade a home at dinnertime to terrorise an ordinary family? We’re not wealthy. In fact we rarely lock our home – we’ve always had this sense that we were protected, and to be honest, it was hard to see what someone might want to take. So what had they come to take? What did they want – and when would they leave?

After an hour of watching them loot our fridge, empty our wine racks and pantry we realised – they weren’t going to leave! They had found their way to the lounge and started flicking through selections on Netflix. The man I assumed was the leader, had found my underwear and was parading around in it to the amusement of the rest of the group.

It was clear they were planning on staying. Our things were no longer our things. They had come to take our home. We were huddled in the corner of our kitchen, still hoping, by some sort of miracle, that they would lose interest and leave. But they didn’t. More men turned up. These ones were carrying bags and personal belongings. We watched in disbelief as they moved into our bedrooms.

We tried to fight, but they had guns. We had no weapons – because we were at home. Our house was full of black men. We hadn’t seen any black women – we wondered if they’d be arriving later!? It made me nervous to be in the company of all those men with no women. The women did arrive later.

Soon there was no room for us in the house. We were pushed outside into the backyard. Our beautiful home was lost on Sunday. We live in the shed now. We watched from the shed as more people arrived. Something was happening. They were putting up balloons… they were celebrating! They were having a party to celebrate their beautiful new home! We watched – incredulous. How does someone just come in and take your home? How could the long years of our story be so swiftly erased? Why had no one come to our aid? What would become of us?

There was a knock at our door. It was one of the men from the house. He seemed to think it was wrong for us to bring up our children in a shed. So he took them too.

Happy Australia Day.

16 responses to “Mandy Nolan’s Soapbox: Close To Home”

  1. Matthew says:

    Ouch! Breathtakingly Brutal Mandy. Take that ignorant whitewashed Australia.
    Not such a happy day or event to celebrate when viewed like this is it? How many Australians have actually considered the opposite viewpoint? Even in Belle Arnolds excellent piece only two days ago there was a post blithely defending it.
    Change The Date !!

  2. patricia warren says:

    Mandy, Your soap box writing is getting stronger and stronger…loving your posts…..go, girl, go

  3. Brilliant! My heart was in my mouth as I read this … let’s hope the people who need to read this do so …

  4. Wonderful stuff. 3/4 of the way through
    I ‘clued in’. Mandy you served up a
    miracle! Thank you.

  5. The Sheriff says:


  6. Ginga says:


    Outstanding piece of writing Mandy!

    I know, right!

    Pope Innocent the VIII! 1 man in the 14th -15th century is responsible for creating laws that disavowed the rights indigenous nations globally. It’s outrageous when we consider the ongoing & historic legacy of tyrants.

    Example: the Indigenous family whom have had their First Nation Land Rights removed for a second time in history( people do not see these things as historic… it is.. are in debt to somewhere round $600k trying to hold their space through the courts. referring to the Adani Mine & native tittle.

    Anastasia ‘Sinister’ P. rewrote something in the law & they can now be arrested for going onto their own indigenous land. Twice in, how long have white people been here in Australia? ( it’s kinda’ rhetorical.. .. it’s very sad & a utter disgrace to think this is still happening today!

    We are blessed we have home here.

    Love & blessings

  7. Sue Rado says:

    Mandy does it again! Heart-wrenching…

  8. Lianne says:

    I am so slow…it took me til 3/4 way through to get what you were talking about lol! I was going to send you condolences etc…
    Great story.

  9. Ill fares the land says:

    So well written and a great piece of lateral thinking. I really look forward to Mondays (Thus Spake Mango) and Tuesdays (Mandy’s Soapbox). I only recently discovered the Echo – what I was missing for so long.

    It is really interesting how we hear so much hyperbole about Australia being overrun, according to Hanson and her limited intellect supporters who feel she “speaks for them”; first by Asians then Muslims and how we have to rise up to stop Australia being colonised. I make no comment on that specific issue, but let’s consider that we are railing against something that we and our forefathers did to Australia’s indigenous only 250 years ago – and we invented the notion that because the indigenous tribes didn’t farm the land, they didn’t own it so we could take it and claim it as our own (this was also the basis for England taking over the Americas). The irony seems to be lost on us. Of course, “we” didn’t invade Australia, but how can that absolve us of blame when all the generations after the first landing and now us perpetuate the discrimination against our indigenous and too many Australians still doggedly and aggressively believe that the indigenous “get stuff” that we don’t.

    • Colleen McMahon says:

      Bruce Pascoe’s book “ Dark Emu” explains that the aboriginal people did indeed farm their land, build dwellings, bake breads, create fish traps and so on. Most of that culture became totally inaccessible and destroyed by sheep and cattle that ruined the native grasses and people who settled and killed their way of life.

  10. Roger says:

    Are you leaving for England then Mandy?

  11. Mandy a well written article, one that cuts to the bone and gave me a visceral experience of loss and grief. And still the government of today carries the same toxic behaviour. It’s time for a change and as I write this, I remember Goff Whitlam’s election campaign slogan “Its Time”. Australia, wake up.

  12. Rudy’s Mumma says:

    Once again, you’ve nailed it. Brilliant stuff, well done you…..

  13. Ginga says:

    Roger, we need Mandy right here, if that’s ok with you.

    We can not change all of the hundreds of years of indigenous genocide, abuse, slavery & discrimination from the past. We can only do what we can do now, right here & now to contribute to the healing.

    Dear friend of mine, Baiame, ancient creation being still holds space as ancestor here down near Mount Yengo, which incidentally, if you look at a topographical map, is the shape of a heart & very much connected through the song lines.
    Never disconnected brothers & sisters.
    Always loved. Much love to all of our First Nations People in the Bunjalung.
    May love flow in the Bunjalung!

  14. Jack Hanley says:

    A powerful story to make our white eyes see our true history.

    Thank you.

  15. End Time Booge says:

    Was it the authors intention to use home security as a metaphor for boarder security ?

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