Taste of Love | Byron 1–3 March | Byron Centre
Eva Glimma is a sex educator who predominantly works with men to get them in touch with their sexuality and to help them confront the issues that may be holding them back from experiencing their full potential. She is one of the presenters conducting sessions at the upcoming Taste of Love Festival.
How did you get into working as a sex educator?
My marital sex life was a bit of a shambles! After the mandatory honeymoon stage, my husband and I had no idea how to go any deeper with each other sexually; we just didn’t have the skills. The last five years were pretty much sexless, very boring, and unfulfilling for both of us. I came out of that relationship thinking ‘There’s got to be more to all of this than what we are being told’ and thus began an unquenchable thirst for studying and researching all things sexual. Here I am 15 years later, working as a sex educator and relationship counsellor, debunking old societal sexual myths and assisting clients to find a more fulfilling and authentic version of their sexual selves.
How do you work with people?
I work holistically with men, women, and couples in private sessions and 2- and 3-day retreats. Every session or program is tailor made to suit their individual requirements. Sessions unfold at a pace that honours where they are currently at and what they are wanting to achieve for themselves. Sessions include embodiment practices, intimacy exercises, emotional release, sex education, counselling, breath work/meditation, communication skills, and sexological bodywork where appropriate.
What is the main issue with men with erectile dysfunction?
Medical conditions and physical impairments aside, erectile dysfunction is largely a byproduct of our archaic conventional sex-education model that obviously isn’t working for us. I’ll be discussing this topic in depth during my talk on men’s sexuality at the Taste of Love Festival.
Can they get erections without using viagra etc?
Viagra is basically botox for the penis. It really isn’t a helpful method to get to the core of the issue and find a long-term solution. A man’s age, developmental life stage, his previous and current relationship dynamics, and over-use of porn stimulation are contributing factors that also need to be taken into consideration. In most cases, erectile dysfunction is a multi-faceted psychological issue that can be easily remedied with an holistic approach.
What are the stumbling blocks for men in regards to intimacy?
Both men and women have been trained to meet their sexuality from a conventional hot, hard, and fast model that is difficult to maintain in a relationship over longer periods. Men’s biggest stumbling blocks are:
1. getting out of their minds and being more present in their bodies
2. dropping the pressures of societal expectations in sexual performance
3. having the communication skills to be able to articulate and negotiate the level of safety they need, so that they are relaxed enough to feel.
Do men worry about their penis size?
Probably as much as women worry about their breast size. Physical attributes concern all of us and we learn to adapt and become inventive. Great sex isn’t dependent on penis size.
What could a man with a small penis do to increase his confidence?
Big, small, fat, skinny, bendy to the right, bendy to the left – no matter what a man’s physicality, the best way he can increase his confidence is to take some private classes for himself, learn how to get more connected and in touch with his own body first, and learn how to utilise and extend his unique energetics and sensitivity.
Eve Glimma is at the Taste of Love in Byron 1–3 March at the Byron Centre. For program and ticket info go to tasteoflove.com.au.