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Mandy Nolan’s Soapbox: Nicessism Disorder

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A nicessist is completely at odds with the ‘take, take, take!’ approach encouraged by our economic model.

I have a disorder that is incompatible with living a comfortable life in the current system. Unfortunately it’s becoming less common, but there are people living in your street who will have it. Maybe even your friends, or someone in your family. Maybe you. It’s my deep shame. It’s why I will never be rich and successful. But probably why I am so deeply happy and why I am so full of love and care for other humans.

I have nicessism. 

It’s defined by having no sense of entitlement, too much empathy and a failure to enjoy what you have without an awareness and a sense of responsibility for the suffering of others. It makes surviving in our capitalist system almost impossible. In fact a nicessist is completely at odds with the ‘take, take, take!’ approach encouraged by our economic model. 

Nicessism makes you acutely aware of the impact of your choices on other people. It tells you that you can make a difference, and you should, and that profits don’t come before people. Nicessism is why my husband and I will work until we die. 

Nicessism is exhausting; if you see something you must act – you cannot close your eyes to what is needed. When someone calls for volunteers you must step up. When someone is in need you must give. It’s a constant sense of connection and responsibility. You cannot take the parking spots of other people, even if you saw them first. You cannot drive past a hitchhiker if you have a space in the car. You cannot see someone fall, and not stop to help them up. 

Nicessists don’t put their seat back when they are on a short domestic flight. They are aware of the discomfort of others. Just because there is a button doesn’t mean you are entitled to use it.

Nicessists don’t take the last cupcake. They go without.

Nicessists give their time. When they are asked to help they say, ‘Yes’. So they get asked to help all the time. This gives them less time to make money. Which they are shit at anyway. They can’t invest in anything unethical so they suck at the stockmarket. 

Nicessists tend to work as teachers, nurses, paramedics or in aged care. Places where they do 16-hour shifts and don’t get paid properly. And when they complain no one listens because everyone knows they are niceissists and they’ll keep doing it until they burn out and die.

Nicessists don’t feel okay about 26 January being Australia Day. They don’t fly the Aussie flag on their front lawn.

Nicessists aren’t comfortable with offshore detention. They are appalled that we are the only country that does this and that people are suffering because our government prefers to argue about things like ‘jurisdiction’ instead of focusing on things like ‘humanity’.

Nicessists can’t destroy forests for mining or for profit-driven development of any sort. They know there are better solutions. They will tie themselves to trees and stop traffic. They will face imprisonment under NSW protest laws.

Nicessists can’t buy investment properties and put them on the short-term holiday market. Even though the financial return might benefit them, they think about things like: ‘Would I like to have people on holidays having parties night after night next door to me?’, or ‘If I use a residential house as a hotel then I am taking a house out of the market that someone could have made into a home. I’d be taking away the chances for someone else to feel security. What if a woman has to live in her car because she can’t find a rental and my home could have been hers?’. 

A nicessist would see their role in the erosion of community. ‘If we don’t keep more of our houses for the community, then who will cut the oranges up for the nippers? Or coach the netball team? Or be a nurse at the local hospital?’.

Nicessists can’t buy houses in towns with the worst homelessness rates outside of a capital city and then rent them out for fast turnover profits. They don’t feel that having money and being able to do such things means that they  will. In fact, they think the opposite. 

Nicessists think that having money and opportunity means you should be making better decisions; more ethical ones, because you can afford to.

When people who have lots of money also have Nicessism, they do some bloody incredible things. Nicessists with money are scary; if there were enough of them all over the world, they could break capitalism. 

That’s why the system lures the wealthy in and indoctrinates them into the mindset that allows them to justify profiteering at the expense of the environment or community. The system destroys nicessists and keeps them poor. 

Capitalism hates nicessism.

But fortunately for capitalism people with nicessism understand that.


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20 COMMENTS

  1. “ It’s defined by having no sense of entitlement, too much empathy and a failure to enjoy what you have without an awareness and a sense of responsibility for the suffering of others.”

    “ Nicessism makes you acutely aware of the impact of your choices on other people. It tells you that you can make a difference, and you should …”

    Mmm, sounds like “wokism” and we can’t have that!

          • No I meant that what Many pointed out as the characteristics/symptoms of nicessism, are fairly self-evidently desirable and unarguable.

            Because it’s hard to dispute these values head on with sound argument, those with agendas that clash take the lazy/expedient way out and invent vague terms like “woke” that are supposed to be some kind of coup de gras but just indicate inadequacy.

            A bit like Ron “DeSanctamonious”s observation that “Florida is where the woke go to die”. Catchy perhaps but much more useful to actually discuss ideas.

            Oscar Wilde said sarcasm was the lowest form of wit, an observation that has merit. But I’d add that labelling and name calling is the lowest form of argument. So low that it doesn’t even register on the scale.

          • Saying something is ‘unarguable’ while talking to a Jew is multi-millennia old mistake.

            ‘no sense of entitlement’ – That’s slave mentality, which is a form of Institutionalisation.
            ‘too much empathy’ – That’s Pathological Altruism.
            Then she iterates some OCD symptoms, then fades into Borderline Personality Disorder symptoms.
            Then she starts cycling between them while displaying a lack of knowledge as to why certain things are done the way they are.

            Nicessism is allowing my 2 yr old to eat icecream for breakfast. Righteousness is making her eat a Banana instead, regardless of the ensuing tantrum. It would take an article to explain the harms she is advocating here.

  2. One of the side effects of practising Nicessism is you feel bloody fantastic, it charges up your energy batteries and – hopefully, Stefanie, it has that domino effect!

    • So does meth, with much the same result. Doing things that are truly good does not give you a thrill, as it requires actual sacrifice. Maybe look up the origin of the word ‘nice’.

  3. Champaign Socialism with a side order Virtue Signaling. Hell is full of good intentions, heaven is full of good deeds.

      • I got an involuntary software update, and it keeps ‘correcting’ my posts by a word here and there after I hit submit. At least on other platforms I can edit.

          • Oh, I make typing mistakes, especially in the morning, but put a recalcitrant computer on top of that and I full on chimp out. Eve generally doesn’t approve my correction sub comments.

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